Saturday, July 3, 2010

Served Its Purpose, Now Do you have a Need?

I started this website for those "Shattered Glass" moments in the life of people who are really seeking to recover from abuse and trauma.

Abuse is very ugly...frankly horrid, disgusting, and often filled with terror.

Healing from abuse and trauma is also very ugly. Healing is very messy, painful, and can be deathly serious.

In the healing process, I felt strongly lead by God to be real and to use writing to express the emotions inside my wounded heart. God give different outlets and directions to each person, some people sing, draw, create sculpture, woodwork or take a run.

Over the past month I have come to the finishing point of my healing, which I would not have believed possible 2 weeks ago. It always hoped to be finished the healing process, but I resigned that I would be always healing.

As a Christian believer, I understand that I will  never stop growing and will always be developing personally becoming sanctified and more like Christ.

So what do I do with a blog post that I felt led to create and only needed for such a short amount of time,

1) I could just leave it as is to be an its little sanctuary, a place in time for the ending stages of my healing, to be as real and vulnerable as I needed.

2) I could close it down and move the post over to my main blog abuse and trauma - hope blog site .

3) I could allow it to become a place for people to come, and even if needed anonymously, have a place to come to express their Shattered Glass Life moments in healing from personal abuse and trauma.

I am opting the third choice. If you want to submit a post email me or leave me a comment and I will be very open to let you freely express what you need to say. So if you are needing to express your journey, your pain, your "shattered glass moments".

I hope this site will be a blessing to you.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Horror House Dream

Last night I experienced one of the horrific trapped dreams in my life. I have been sleeping for nine hours. I tried several times to awaken but found that I couldn't - I tried to speak, get my body to move, to sing... I was in a trance that was not by my doing and not mine to control.

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Somehow I retained enough sense, maybe the Holy Spirit was speaking to me, but in the midst of being caught in this dream ... I remembered that I had committed to fast on Fridays to break any spiritual bonds left in my life so that I could experience the abundant freedom God desires.

I fasted last Friday and this past week has been awesome!!! Relationships have blossomed within my home. I am walking on a deeper level with both my teen boys.

Doors have opened. I have been at the right place at the right time to have "life" spiritual impact in others life. God has worked through me to speak to people who need to hear a life-giving word.

Why do I feel corny stating that we absolutely do have an enemy? Our cultural popular worldview is to belittle God and to ignore Satan. It is worse to say you believe in Satan to be real then to say you believe in God. Many religions believe in God, but only Christianity has Satan - the evil One.

Think about it - why is that? Could it truly be what the pharisees accused Jesus of thousands of years ago... that leaders of other faiths are truly Demonic. Jesus was accused by the "religious" powerful of his day as been aligned with Satan. But Jesus clearly responded that Satan would not cast out himself from a person tormented by demons because a house divided against itself could not stand!

Today think we are so smart. Even the ancients openly recognized the identity and power of Satan and his demonic realm of spiritual tormentors. Jesus rebuked Satan and cast  him out of possessing people and taught his disciples how to resist and reject Satan. What other religion in existence today speaks of the power of Satan and the fact that God has an enemy that will be removed?

Satan was crushed when Jesus died on the cross and broke the powerful bonds of eternal death in hell. Jesus made a way for all people to be free of the power of Satan. Many choose to deny both. I chose to embrace God by faith and to resit Satan, rebuke him, reject him and break the bonds he hold on me through generational abusive sin!

By God's grace and His ability to help me fast today and for many Fridays to come. I say, as Jesus did, "Satan get behind me! to anyone that tries to get me off the track of walking with God and following His will for my life and anyone who attacks or ridicules me. People are flesh and blood. People are not my enemy, but Satan and his demons are.

I publicly proclaim, "In the name of Jesus and by the power of Jesus' blood leave Satan leave me alone!" My war is with you and not against people. I fight you with spiritual weapons given to me by God - and you will not prevail in my life!"

All glory and honor and praise to God, my Lord & Savior Jesus and His Holy Spirit!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Good Day

I haven't posted a vlog in a while because I wanted to show what a Shattered Glass Life of someone who was healing from childhood abuse and trauma authentically looked and felt like. However, I really think this give balance to this site for readers/followers to know that even if you are not bi-polar (manic depressive) you can have sways of really good days when you feel like nothing is wrong. This is so stark in comparison to the days when you can't shake the despair, dread, hopelessness. It is not something you can just wish to stop or pray for God to lift and it mysterious goes away.

Now I will state that God is unlimited and can make the "episode" go away. At the same time we must balance the fact that He is not a genie in the sky granting our every wish. He sees at a further distance and a deeper depth what would be good for us, what will be useful to transform us into the image of Christ. So we must learn to praise Him is the storm just as we naturally are inclined to praise Him in the rainbows.

That said, I hope you glean something meaningful for your journey in this vlog, and written blog portion.
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Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Edward Scissor Hand turns Evil

I feel like a screaming yell cutting people up freak - the only person who came to mind was Edward Scissorhand, not that I am at all like him in his artistic delight or compassion for others....no I am a vile, cursing, bitter, yelling wild women that happens to have quickly moving scissors poking out of every part of my body and mind.

I just finished doing a video to upload but once again as everything else that is going on in my life today it FAILED!

Thanks YouCam...where can I get a program that will work?

After calling my husband and telling him the sky and every else if falling down...oh, boy the way, I hope you can have a nice lunch....

I am so frustrated and tired. No matter what I do it doesn't work and in most if not all I am seen by  my lovely teens as the problem to all things....

Where do I start, where do I end? Does it really matter...the details are meaningless, and so  are the yelling words because they never change behavior ..... there is a gloom covering me that wants to run for the hills, let any willing "good parent" adopt my children and so they can 'live happily ever after' in all the cool kids homes.

Yeah, I have heard it before they are teens, that is the way their brain works (or more correctly doesn't work) the dial is permanent stuck of me-mood until the love of their life enters the seen and get to see maybe a little of other care mode. But boys need to be warned, smart girls look at the way you treat you mom...if you treat her like shit or two year old crappy news....pretty good sign of what they will end up doing shortly after the buzz of the honeymoon comes to the end.

I am tired of putting my body through all this chemical medication and its side effects to still be treated that I don't matter. So what is really the use...I have been on medication for 10 years to try to be the best mother I can possibly be but it is never going to be enough...I an always going to be the oddball cancerous growth this is unwelcome on a personal level.

I am going to go...thanks for listening....

Sunday, April 4, 2010

A Sharp Edge

I broke apart yesterday and cut the people I love with the sharp edge of my words and attitude. No halo floating over my head. I knew things were heading for a rough day and my dear husband bounced out of bed and started listing all the things he wanted to tackle. Things we needed to take care of together.

It is not like I can expect him to have a PhD in psychology. How would he know that he was throwing me over the edge if I didn't even know?
Yesterday was the beginning of the month, and the end of my vignette (name for rented booth space) at the little antique store off our downtown square. Another failed adventure. Something I felt God wanted Me to do for I some holy reason that I never quite figured out.

My husband thinks it was all a plot to become a hoarder and spend money on crap I didn't. need and nobody else wanted or needed. When I get an idea in my head, I think about all the creative things I could do. I had some really great ideas...the only problem is it is a BIG step from concept or picture in a magazine to finished product and reality in life.

So my garage is filled with about a dozen quarter finished or never started projects all intended to make their way to the market of my little vintage/antique booth. I pulled over 100 tacks out of the old leather office chair and bought two books on upholstery, even order new material and purchased a heavy duty stapler. The chair is still naked furniture...just a frame and a bunch of cotton padding and a bottom that sags because I pulled the spring support out.

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

I Don't Give A Crap!

This hurt a lot! I was talking to one of my children expressing what I that I had some success in finding someone to help me pursue litigation against people/ organizations that turned a blind eye to the torturous abuse occurring in my family. I told so many people, especially leadership in schools and Department of Human Services, and no one did ANYTHING to help me or anyone in my family.

My child said, "I Don't Give A Crap!"

It hit me like a sword being shoved into my heart. 

And worst, the little tape started playing....no one gives a crap, no one cares what happen to you, no one gives a crap, no one has helped you ever, you see, no one give a CRAP about you or anything that happen to you.

The pain stung and took time for me let those words go even after my child apologized. 

Books - they help me enter other worlds - think about other thoughts - hear other words....for 2 hours I sat on the floor of a Goodwill reading books that people have discarded - tossed away....just like me...no longer needed...not wanted...no one cares about these books. 

I  care - someone wrote them because they felt they had something important to tell. I will be glad to listen.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Becoming Attuned - Day 1

I decided to make a video journals most days as I progress through attunement brain therapy by my Psychologist. While I don't meet with my therapist but once a week, the therapy continues each day I live. I love to write, but video (vlogging) is a popular means of communicating today, so I am going to use it within my blog.

Everyday I am capable, I will make a video. My purpose is hopefully encourage people who are hurting from trauma due to child abuse and also to help anyone who know someone that needs to recover from mental illness caused by child abuse.

I am a Christian first.

Why is this important to say upfront?

Well, I want you to understand that I am not using this site to preach or convert people. I do want to be genuine. Since I live in a life with a God-centered worldview, I think it is important to say this clearly. Anyone, Christian or not, can benefit from my attunement therapy because it is not a religious experience. It is done by qualified professional counselors.

In watching my experience, or if you decide to comment, I would like for you be sensitive to the fact that Jesus is very important to me in my healing process. So please don't attack my faith in comments because it would hurt my feelings.

What being a Christian means for me, is that I am not walking this path of healing alone even though it often feels like I am many days - the truth is God is always with me and on my worst days He is carrying me or holding me. Due to have Disassociative Disorder I don't easy feel His presence because I am not always grounded to people and my surroundings. I live a lot of time detached.

My therapist through attunement therapy is going to help establish and develop neuro pathways that are not in my brain. Science with MRI imagining has shown in resent years that people who have been through severe and especially very young child abuse do not have pathways in the brain as people do in normal development. My brain is different, so we are going to do intensive therapy to help my brain become more like people who have never been through child abuse.

And through attunement brain therapy, I am going to learn to be attached to people, events, life in general. I am sure I will learn much about what this means in days and weeks to come.

Well, that is enough for today. Here is my video:

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Comments are always welcomed. It is always nice to know you are not alone in your experience and that other people can relate or appreciate what you go through.

Lindy

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Lonely, Empty, Meaningless - Interrupted

I look out my bedroom window...past the white painted rocking chair (that was not painted until it started to mold so no matter how clean I try to get it - it still is dirty looking and my mother-in-law always brought a towel to clean it off or sit on when she was still alive and here for her visit 2-3 times a year)....funny what goes through our mind....that has been 5 years if not 10 and every single time I see the rocking chairs - this is what I think.

Focus!

I look out of my bedroom window, and past the top rung on the white painted rocking chair, and I see joy.....

Daffodils dancing in the early spring wind. They make me smile, which is something I really needed at this moment, because I have not been feeling much interested in life, living, breathing, doing, being.

I am thankful for the gentle breeze that makes these delicate cheery flowers wiggle on their long slender green legs.

A mental break from the cloud the held me away from connection and joy.

I may not be closely linked to people, things, events...but nature helps me a lot. God has a hold on me in nature. A little window into innocence, rest, and playfulness. All simply being real, daffodils naturally being what God created them to be. If only we could learn to rest and be - so willingly surrendered to the winds of our life, trusting in the soil of our spirit to keep our soul rooted where we are suppose to be.

Oh, that I may live as simply as a daffodil dancing in the wind!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Swatted


SWAT! ow, ow, ouch - that hurts.... words slap into me

I cheer, I smile, I express my emotions.

SWAT! why? slapped again... stares, eyes roll, silent words of "she's weird"...."cuckoo"....it hurts deep inside.

I gleefully make a comment, fully engaged, enjoying the moment in life.

SWAT! SWAT! their eyes slash through me....hurtful, hideous eyes

What is wrong? Why can't I just be me? I might be different, can't help it, it is who I am.

I am different. Why can't people be kind and accept me?

The pain runs over....the gruntle-scream roars out of the deepest ravines of my being....and I cry, I cry, I cry for years of pain....and I cry, I cry, feeling quite insane...and I cry, I cry, accepting who I am, and I cry, I cry, remembering my grandmothers that were the same.....

Did anyone hear them when they cried out in pain? When the electrodes were attached to their bodies and the jolt roared through their bones....did they cover up their screams....was anyone listening? did anyone care?

were they loved? or did people just stare, glare, making them feel 'mad'?

Who should have been given the electric shock? The one hurting deep inside her soul or the people who were too insensitive to listen...too shallow to hear...too worldly to see a wounded soul?

Only God knows!!!!

Forecast is Changing

I have been through a hellacious week or more -

Longing to stabilize - I sit at a sandwich shop when I should be home making dinner for my family.

The sweet tea is so comforting, along with the cheddar broccoli soup. Everyone needs a breather. This is mine as I sit with my legs propped up on the chair across the table. Oh, getting some weight off my mind.

Phone calls, television, emails, cat food, cluttered sinks.... is this called a break?

Click, click, click ----drum, drum, drum, ---- TV volume up, up, up.....the coil is twisting..."click, click, click," says the pen in my son's hand. "boom, boom, boom," says the drum kit in my son's room. "blare, blare, blare," says the TV since it can't hear over the drum.

Tip...tip...push her just a little more...that's it...she twisted tighter...

WHO IS LEADING THE ORCHESTRA?

Blow! Scream! Help! AUUUGH!

Calm it down, calm it down, deep breath, easy does it...

Can you tell I am having a better day? That the negative forecast is changing....the windy, dark clouds are lifting....

It is OK if you can't see it.... I can feel it. And I know there is One who is in control of the crazy world...and He loves me.

So I hang on!

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Tug-of-War Elastic


Pulling, stretching on all sides.

Needs are great, resources small.

Expectations, commitments, responsibilities drag and press to be satisfied.

Arms are aching tired of pressure. Thoughts are lazy, darting about.

Observed. Judged. No one sees the fight inside. Outward glances, misunderstandings.

I have too much to do. I am needed in so many places by so many people. I made commitments when I was functioning, feeling normal. Now in a hollow lonely recess, I peer out wondering who do I please. I can't do it all. Who do I disappoint?

So many needs, wants, wishes, desires by those I love and should be serving....never can I be everything everybody wants and needs. No matter what I do I fail.

Please Me, Please Me - I hear a calling. How and what - prioritize - how?

Too many commitments, not enough time. Emotional crashes bring to this point. I can't function if I am not there. I go away when I hurt others and fail others, I don't want to be a source of pain.

Love, joy, peace, encouragement, support, kindness, goodness, gentleness, self-control... this is what I long to be.

How many times can you say, "I sorry" and still be believed? Is it worse to never say I am sorry than to always say it. "Forgive me" - when do these words loose their effectiveness... move to doubt, frustration, insincerity to those who count on me?

Stop the pulling! Let go of me!

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Shrinking In

Feeling smaller, drawing in, do not touch me, wishing I was gone away.

Why do we have to keep living? Causing hurt, slashing others, it wont stop if I still breathe.

Wanting joy, but feeling sorry.

Wanting love, but giving pain.

Why must I keep on living? What good purpose could there be?

I love, I hurt. I love, I harm. I love, I cry. Disappointed in my role. Being who I never wanted.

Numbing, hurting, drawing tighter. Shrinking inward, hurt no others. Still I breath........

Disassociated. My arms hurt, heavy - stiff - solid.

Where is beauty? Did she hide and go away? Birthed and stolen, lost or missing. Where is beauty? Was she dangerous or powerful? Could she grow or help? Who took her away?

Moving closer to the edge, no one touch me. Let me rest. So angry. So mean. So fickle. Wrapped in prickly metal wire, keeping others at bay, keeping me trapped inside. Feeling worthless. I want to stop - I want to stop hurting those who try to love me.

Is Duct tape the answer? What about a mummy wrap? When will those I love be safe?

I release them...no longer do I dare to reach them...It is enough. It is time to stop the pain I cause others. Stop the ....stop the...stop the....stop me!

Now I lay my head to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep, I wish I'd die before I wake, and to keep my soul and others safe.

Child abuse is a monster of a disease. Its tentacles root deep within and refuse to let go. Dragging its prisoners to an early grave, spewing poison on anyone close. This one does not die easy, he digs in to destroy everyone and every thing.

Oh, to be set free! Slash his throat and set me free! Sweet Dreams little one. Sweet dreams.

Friday, March 12, 2010

Slashing

So, this is what life is suppose to be like. Is it good for you? Is it as disappointing as my life. How many times have you wished you would die? Too many to count.

I have no real solid answers, no one to help, no one to listen to me that I need help, no medication that will control my outrages. No, I am permanently screwed. One day, I will be able to break free from this cage called life, living in torturous pregatory - now way to be released, no way to be normal, now way to not hurt, disappoint and destroy slash by slash my children and husband.

Oh, God, how can this be just. What pleasure and glory could you receive from allowing me to live and birth forward three precious children only to watch me destroy them stab by stab, slash by slash, beating them down into worthless, insecure teens seek freedom and to be anything but like me.

I release them, tell the to run, to never look back, to go forward discovering their future and hope accepting that it probably be best that it is apart from me. God knows I don't want to hurt another living creature.

If not helped, if not stable, if not certain I will cause no harm, I must be set free from the relational ties legally and emotionally binding them to my family - those poor souls deserve a tenfold of blessing.

If I am not yet to die, leave me to be - alone - safe from causing any pain. No one deserves to ever be hurt one more second by me. I am finished through tired of all of the excuses.

No entering the medicated drunken stupor, I am ready to crash to sleep. Maybe I will wake up happier but I don't decide anything better for me. Just take care of my children - they deserve so much more.